When Motherhood Makes You Cry…

The truth is that motherhood makes you cry. The crying begins with tears of joy when you find out you’re going to have a baby. From that point on, the tears come for different reasons because every pregnancy and every motherhood journey has it’s own joys and sorrows.

The crying doesn’t end when your baby is born though, it really has only just begun. You’ll find yourself crying again when they take their first steps, on their first day of school and many other joyous occasions.

When Motherhood Makes You Cry - By Misty Leask

But, what about the moments when motherhood makes you cry and it isn’t a joyful time? Sometimes motherhood makes you cry for all the wrong reasons. Tears in motherhood aren’t always tears of joy.

Words get said that shouldn’t have been spoken and they cut like a knife, straight to the heart. Many…no countless times. You find yourself praying, asking God for help in how to deal with the hurt, all the while knowing that your little one has to allow God to work in them, just as He has to wait to work in you. And you realize how hard waiting truly is and understand a little bit how God must feel waiting on you.

Presents get purchased for others in celebration of their motherhood and you know that there is no allowance left for your gift. You take time to be grateful that your child was thoughtful and bought something for her. But, once again motherhood makes you cry, this time because your gift was forgotten. You tell yourself that Mother’s Day isn’t about getting gifts, that it’s about the little blessings you hold dear each day, but it still hurts. 

You strive to let go of the pain behind these tears, because you know that you can’t live in full joy when your heart is broken from hurtful words and forgotten gifts. You long to let go, you just don’t know how and sometimes you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. You wonder if this will end…ever?

Stopping to think of other mothers who might be in the same boat, (silently hoping that you’re not in this boat alone, but feeling guilty for “hoping” someone else feels this pain too), you whisper a silent prayer of strength for them this Mother’s Day. That they would remember all of the good things and times this one day each year. That laughter, smiles, hugs and fun times would be what rings in their heart. You pray that just for a day, they could forget that motherhood makes you cry…for the wrong reasons sometimes.

The truth is, tears are a part of each motherhood journey. So cry, moms, no matter what the reason. Whether in joy or in pain, tears are good for the soul. In joy they bring laughter and in sorrow they bring about healing eventuallyeven though the scars will not go away.

Know that no matter where you are, you are not alone crying on Mother’s Day and that I am praying for you…because motherhood makes you cry.

About Misty Leask

Misty is a Daughter of THE King, Texas girl always, Navy brat at heart, loving Fisherman's wife, blessed mother of 2. She is passionate about being real throughout all of life's struggles, successes and dreams. Her heart is full of ideas and passions, but the hours in her day never multiply to get it all done. Misty loves writing and reading in her spare time. Music and photography are favorite past times of hers as well.

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When Motherhood Makes You Cry… — 20 Comments

  1. This is so true, it blessed me today -> “So cry, moms, no matter what the reason. Whether in joy or in pain, tears are good for the soul” Thanks for those words of comfort! I needed it!

    W/Love,
    Tayrina from TGAWrites

  2. Yes! tears are so healing and apart of the natural cycle of life. I always feel better when I cry.and yes I have cried many tears over my children because of my children and because I am so thankful that God would give them to me even in the midst of the pain and hard days.

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  4. Hi Misty! Stopping by from Women with Intention 🙂 What an encouraging post! We mamas try our best to hold it all together, but sometimes we just have to cry. Thanks for giving us permission 😉

    • Yes, I’ve heard that as well! I’m not sure I can handle more tears than I am dealing with right now, but God will uphold me of that I am sure. When my strength is gone, His will be perfect.

  5. Motherhood is hard – and we have to allow ourselves to cry and feel the heartache – and also support one another. We’re not alone in any of this. We need to feel okay to speak up about the hurts and concerns and heartaches – and find the other moms who have the same struggles. Tears are okay – but better if we share them and find a support network of other moms with whom to navigate this toughest job.

    • Yes, that is true! Ensuring that we have friends who understand the depth of sorrow and the heights of joy motherhood gives us is important! Blessings to you Kathryn!

  6. Motherhood is the hardest task I have ever faced. It is also the most rewarding, tears & all. So grateful we can find support in one another & in other women to encourage us to press on & not lost hope. Blessings!

    • Oh yes, it truly is the hardest and most rewarding. It’s funny how it can be two extreme opposites isn’t it?! Another one of God’s miracles! 🙂 Many blessings Joanne!

  7. “You tell yourself that Mother’s Day isn’t about getting gifts, that it’s about the little blessings you hold dear each day, but it still hurts.” So true. I turned Mother’s Day into a day to thank God He granted me the miracle of (adoptive) motherhood of a wonderful daughter. Thanks for the encouragement, Misty!

    • What a wonderful way to ensure that you’re thankful on a day that may be otherwise difficult! <3 Blessings Milly!

  8. This blog post definitely resonated with me, especially today.

    It is so true that tears of joy and sorrow have specific purposes. Not one tear is wasted as the Lord redeems all that touches our lives.

    Thanks for sharing!

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