This year God really laid on my heart that it was getting close to time to talk to my daughter about purity. While the very thought of having “the talk” and other important girl conversations terrifies me, I knew that if God was telling me to get ready I better get there.
I decided that it was time to go looking for ways to start getting ready, something I knew I couldn’t do by myself. How could I look at my little girl and talk about things like her period, boobs, purity, etc. She’s still little, why do I need to start now?
Being an avid reader that is where I went looking first, I was thrilled to find a few books that started this journey for my daughter and I. These books have been a blessing to me as a wife and a mom and my daughter has enjoyed a couple of them with me.
In Luke Gilkerson’s eBook, “The Talk”, he discusses all of the different places where our kids come into contact with sexual conversations, conduct and how they learn about sex before parents have even thought about discussing it with them. I knew I didn’t want my kids to learn about sex from anyone but me, I wanted to teach them what God designed it for and why they should remain pure until marriage. This book pushed me to begin preparing my children for “the talks” we were going to need to have.
I believe it is best to start simple, so I found a devotional that would begin to teach her to look to God first, that she was His daughter, a Princess, what every little girls dreams of being. “His Little Princess: Treasured Letters from Your King” by Sheri Rose Shepherd is a wonderful compilation of letters written to little girls from their heavenly Father, the King. My daughter loved reading these letters and basked in the glow of knowing that God loved her and that SHE is His Princess!
While reading Dannah Gresh’s “Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Girl“, is where the rubber met the road. I knew I was moving towards “the talks” that I was not really ready to have, but that I knew I wanted to be the first to talk to her about things like purity and her period. It’s not that I don’t want my little girl to grow up, I just don’t want her to grow up when the world or her friends say it’s time too.
After reading Dannah’s book, I realized that I wanted to throw a “becoming a woman” party similar to what she describes in her book. It definitely intimidates me, but I loved how she teaches girls that their period is a beautiful part of God’s creation, preparing us to become a mother. It was this part of the book that sent me on a mission to discover how to teach my daughter how important her purity, her husband and her future is right now as a little girl.
These books were just the beginning of this journey and while I’m preparing for “the talks” this month, it is my prayer that these books will encourage you to be the one to talk to your kids about sex and the importance of purity.
What books or websites do you recommend for parents beginning this part of the parenting journey?