Sexual abuse is terrible, especially because it takes something that God made to be beautiful and turns it into a means to control and hurt someone.
Why Use Sex to Abuse?
People that use sex abusively like the feel of power. The very knowledge that they can make you do things you don’t want to do, or even things you would do in a loving relationship, gives them a messed up feeling of pleasure.
How Do You Recognize Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abusers can move slow, over a long period of time, or they can act quickly, the speed of the abuse doesn’t matter.
Slow actions can begin by porn being brought into the bedroom to encourage you into trying new things. The next time it could be them actually talking you into doing something you don’t want to, sometimes it’s comes with the line(s) “You love me right?” or “We love each other, nothing else matters.” Before you know it you’re doing things you’d never admit to anyone, things that degrade you.
What You Feel and Think
Sex is no longer a beautiful act, you despise it. You dress as unattractive as possible to avoid it. You separate yourself as much as possible to try and escape sex.
Your mind becomes full of past encounters and the sounds that accompany them. Long, hot showers help to slow your mind, but they never clean your body.
You dodge spending time with anyone that might notice a difference in your mindset or behavior, especially men.
~ Rape is something that I have personally never dealt with, but it is in the news so often that you can’t miss it. The statistics show that there are 87,000 victims of rape and approx. 66% of the victims knew their attacker. Only 39% of rape and sexual assault victims reported the crime. ~
Please note….There are many different types and stages of relationship abuse, and admittedly more and worse than I have personally dealt with in my past. If I have not covered a type or stage of relationship abuse, it is because I do not have any personal dealings with it. However, my “ignorance” of the type, stage, feelings or after affects does not the change reality of this relationship abuse. If you or someone you love is in an abusive relationship please reach call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
