Many wives have a difficult time with their husband’s mother..whether it be that they married a momma’s boy, she is simply overbearing or any other myriad of reasons. Yet, family is still family and just as I wrote to husbands last week…you married in. You most likely knew the challenges/difficulties you’d face before you said I do…and you still did. Now, you must accept and move forward. (Yes, I realize it’s easier for me to type that than to actually do it.)
Make Your Husband Proud
As wives, we have the ability to make our husband’s proud and surprise our in-laws. If they had any fears or reservations regarding you and/or y’all’s marriage, make the efforts needed to quiet those feelings.
- Be a help meet.
- Always readily available and able to help him.
- Be a good hostess.
- Have family dinners at your home.
- Be positive about his family.
- Try not to find the negative (discuss only if necessary).
- Be fulfilling.
- Keeping our husbands sexually happy will be evident in his attitude and body language toward you and in front of his family.
The virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 that we all should desire to be likened to is known for…
“The heart of her husband does safely trust in her…”
“She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.”
We need to daily pursue our husbands being proud to call us his wife. Our attitude and actions in front of and in regards to his family are important in whether he is proud to call us his wife. If we can’t be respectful as his wife in front of his family, then how can we expect him to be proud or even happy to be married to us?
His Family is Now Your Family
There’s no way around it. God designed marriage to unite two people. Those two people each bring family along with them. It is your job as his wife to be open and willing to be part of his family.
We must remember that blood does not make family…loyalty and love are the bonds of family.
How close you and your husband are to her family and his family is entirely up to y’all as a couple. What you must remember is that you have to be willing and committed to your in-laws just as you expect him to be with his.
Marriage isn’t about 50/50…it requires each spouse giving 100%, just as they expect from their other half.
His family + Her family = Your Family