Relationships: His Family (Part Two)

Your wife is most likely nervous around your family. She doesn’t want to say or do the wrong thing, in fear of them possibly saying she doesn’t deserve you or something along those lines. She needs to know that you love her and nothing your family says or does is going to change that.

His-family

Keep Her By Your Side

Most wives want to be with their husbands, especially when you are around your family. It’s important that you don’t just leave her behind repeatedly when you’re with your family.

God created women from man’s rib, so it’s natural that they want to be close to you. It’s part of God’s design.

Genesis 2:21-23 says, “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”

She’s Not Your Mom

Chances are there are quite a few things that you love about your mom, just like your wife loves her dad. You probably grew up with your mom making certain meals that you love to this day. If you ask you wife to attempt to make one, be sure that you truly appreciate her making the effort, even if it doesn’t taste like your mom’s recipe. Her desire is to please you and if you don’t appreciate the efforts she’s making then she will be less likely to attempt them in the future.

Your mom most likely took care of the laundry, dishes and occasionally cleaned your room. While your wife was designed to be your help meet, she would greatly appreciate you putting your dirty laundry in the hampers, helping with the dishes and cleaning occasionally would be nice as well.

After all God created the two to become one…like a well functioning team.

Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

She Married In…

Now it’s your responsibility to help her get to know everyone in your family. Each woman is unique and has a personality that you know best. Look for opportunities to do things that put her at ease around your family.

Some things you might try something like…

  • A day at the beach
  • Dinner and movies at home
  • An afternoon of BBQ, Frisbee, basketball, etc.
  • A game of charades

 

Your marriage is now your #1 priority. Part of your design as a husband is to be the protector of your wife. You must ensure that no matter what your family does or doesn’t like about your wife, that it does not change your love for her. She needs to know that your family isn’t your priority, just like you do.

You want to be her #1 and she wants to be yours.

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About Misty Leask

Misty is a Daughter of THE King, Texas girl always, Navy brat at heart, loving Fisherman's wife, blessed mother of 2. She is passionate about being real throughout all of life's struggles, successes and dreams. Her heart is full of ideas and passions, but the hours in her day never multiply to get it all done. Misty loves writing and reading in her spare time. Music and photography are favorite past times of hers as well.

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  1. I wish I had had this post on hand when hubby and I got married. We frequently visited my in-laws {which required overnight stays since they live out of town}. He would go golfing with his brother or fishing with his dad leaving me alone not only with my MIL but all the kids, too. Talk about stressful and uncomfortable…

    • Yes, it is hard when one spouse doesn’t understand or try to figure out what the other needs when around their new in-laws. There should be a book on your spouse and their in-law’s etiquette! LOL 🙂

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