Being Real: An Unwed Mother

It’s pretty safe to say that I could be one of the poster children for a life that turned out nothing like I had planned. From relational abuse to a bad first marriage, to divorce, then a single mom and next becoming an unwed mother.


Anyone Can Become an Unwed Mother

Being raised in a Christian home with a loving family, I had no reason to have been making all of these bad choices. Except for the fact that I am human, stubborn to a fault and I think I can fix everyone. When you add all of those things together without wisdom and a listening heart, you end up places you never imagined you would be. I welcomed a precious new baby at 21 and I was not married…I became an unwed mother.

The choices that brought me to becoming an unwed mother were the hardest ones of my life on my family. Being raised in a Christian home with a loving family, I knew better and yet, I still chose to follow my foolish heart instead of my head and the wisdom my family had spoken to me.

It Isn’t Wise to Be Alone with a Man

It is very hard to be in a relationship where you have alone time with a man and not become intimately involved. Is it impossible, no, but is it wise to be alone together, nope. These are things I knew in my head, but didn’t care to hear at the time. It may sound old fashioned to believe these things, but I know first hand just how difficult it truly is to be alone with a man even when you both have the very best of intentions.

Being an Unwed Mother Still Brings a Blessing

Children are a blessing, God’s Word says that they are “an heritage from the Lord” in Psalm 127:3. There is no stipulation in His Word that says they must be born within marriage, all children are a blessing from God.

I am so thankful that God blessed with my little blessing #2, I honestly can’t imagine my life without both of them. They have been the reason I woke up many days and the only reason I lived through others. God knew that I needed them and I’m thankful that He opened my eyes earlier rather than later, to see that they need me too.


About Misty Leask

Misty is a Daughter of THE King, Texas girl always, Navy brat at heart, loving Fisherman's wife, blessed mother of 2. She is passionate about being real throughout all of life's struggles, successes and dreams. Her heart is full of ideas and passions, but the hours in her day never multiply to get it all done. Misty loves writing and reading in her spare time. Music and photography are favorite past times of hers as well.


Being Real: An Unwed Mother — 16 Comments

  1. In my quiet time this morning, Misty, I was struck by how often God uses our mistakes and challenges to perfect His plan. It doesn’t make sense, but in God’s economy somehow He makes it all work and work for our good ! I’m so glad you’re authentic and open about this part of your past. Your desire to live for God and minister to other women now shows just how great our God is! 🙂

    • Yes, God is good and turns messes that we make into good! How thankful I am for those gifts He has bestowed on me! Blessings Beth!

  2. I have been following your blog for awhile now & am always inspired by your encouraging posts….it seems we have in common that I understood. I can now see why I always felt a ‘kindred’ spirit in you. I too was a single mother with my two eldest boys 🙂
    Thanks so much for sharing this. Always good to be reminded of God’s redemptive power. NOTHING is too hard for Him to redeem!
    Blessings, Rachael @ Diamonds in the Rough

    • 🙂 Isn’t it amazing how we can sense a kindred spiritness through the words someone writes? I’m so thankful that you’ve been following and that you’ve connected with things God has laid on my heart! Blessings as you journey through the life God has given you! <3

  3. Bless you, Misty, for sharing the wisdom you’ve gained from this hard place. Your story will give encouragement to so many. Yes, God uses our mistakes for the good of those who love him. It sounds like you are in a good place now and I am grateful for that.

  4. Beautiful post! You are so right, children are a blessing! I love how open and honest you are.

    God has a wonderful way of making lessons for us and if we are open and receptive enough, we’ll know what that lesson was supposed to be. 🙂

    • Yes! I’m so thankful that God opened my eyes to see the lessons He had for me to learn and that He gave me my little blessings!

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  6. Unfortunately, we all gain wisdom as we get older and learn from choices that weren’t the best. You are very blessed! Thank you for sharing your point of view. Many of us in life made wrong decisions in that area, we just never had a baby to show for it. God uses our messes in life to bless us and bring us back to Him. God bless!

    • Yes very true, with age comes wisdom…through the good experiences and the bad. I’m very thankful for the grace God has given me through them all. Blessings Jaime.

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